Couples who are finding it difficult to conceive often imagine that they’re the only ones who are having difficulty coping. This is simply not true. Believing you are alone can make you feel inadequate, as if you’re failing.
Speaking to someone you can trust about these feelings can help lift the weight off your shoulders. If you do nothing more, allow others to take care of you. Once they know how you’re feeling they’ll be able to give you the support you want or need. Quite simply, the sooner you ask for help, the sooner you’ll receive help, feel better and be able to enjoy life at the same time as trying to become a parent.
Lots of others have been there and are willing to share their experiences and offer support. Also those who truly want nothing but happiness for you, like your closest friends and family, can and will listen to you and love you if you let them.
However, none of these people can read your mind. You have to value and invest time in yourself and your situation and think about what would help you handle the situation you’re going through right now.
Many people find it difficult to ask others for help or talk about negative feelings that they’re experiencing, but it’s important that you do. Often, a close family friend or perhaps your partner will realise there’s something wrong before you admit it to yourself. In my experience, they’ll be relieved when you open up to them about what’s troubling you.
Don’t feel ashamed of how you’re feeling or try to hide it. We can and all too often do expect too much of ourselves. Your expectations of yourself may be a little harsher than is fair. Don’t be too hard on yourself; you are only human after all!